Stop These Habits That Make You Emotionally Weak (Emotional Health Counseling)

Feeling blue doesn’t automatically means that you are emotionally weak. It takes more than just a gloomy feeling to be able to understand your inability to regulate emotions. However, you should not ignore it and pay close attention to how your symptoms impact your life. Because if your emotions are not expressed in a healthy and well-balanced way, it can still cause overall damage once ignored.

Note that not all individuals reached a certain level of emotional strength. Therefore, it is not your fault if you feel like you are emotionally incapable of handling things. There is nothing to be embarrassed about because understanding your emotions runs in a process that requires patience. This patience is the key to help you become more self-aware. But to acquire that, you need to stop doing these practices that make you emotionally vulnerable.


Not Taking Care Of Yourself

Unfortunately, some of the daily habits that you thought are okay can influence your emotional intelligence. If you think it is okay to skip breaks, not get enough sleep, eat unhealthy food, etc., you might want to reconsider those actions. In this world where people are often pushing themselves to the limit, they tend to not take care of themselves. Never let yourself become one of these individuals who force their self-worth base on status, achievements, looks, social connections, and finances. Take care of yourself if you have to because you deserve it. Prioritize your physical, emotional, and mental aspects, and do not let burnout come in your way.

Not Loving And Believing In Yourself 

One strong component of emotional weakness is its ability to make you think that you are not good enough. It makes you believe that an initial failure you experience is already your reality and that you can never do something about it anymore. It makes you hold on to a negative perception of yourself that makes you feel insecure, unworthy, and incapable. Your emotional weakness drags you down, making you into a less self-confident and self-worthy person. To address this negativity, you need to focus on loving and believing in yourself. Put it this way; if you believe that you can do it, you subconsciously attract positive energy to affirm it. Therefore, the more you think that you are capable, the more you gain emotional strength.


Criticizing Yourself Based On How You Feel

Often, when you are emotionally weak, you stick with the idea that you should not feel an emotion different from others. There is this mentality that if what you are emotionally going through is not something others can easily comprehend, you should immediately shut those feelings out. It means that you want to reject, prevent, or hold back your emotions because you feel they are not accepted. Your boundaries and happiness suffer because you deprive yourself of the things you should positively do. Please change that. Please take note that your feelings are valid and that they deserve to be expressed.

Needing A Reason For Everything

One significant sign of emotional weakness is the reliance on consequences. Usually, when there are uncertainties in the way, you tend to believe that “everything happens for a reason.” However, that thinking habit is dangerous to both your emotional and mental stability. It makes you overthink about stuff that is not even significant. It makes you emotionally weak because of too much inconsistent analysis over irrational life occurrences. It hinders you from taking concrete actions to the problem. Needing a reason for everything makes it impossible for you to cope emotionally. Therefore, stop paying attention to uncertainties and accept situations as they occur. Fight emotional weakness by recognizing the importance of making the best out of the moment.


Trying To Control Everything

Perhaps you have that sense of accomplishment because you think you already have your life mapped out, and that makes you feel in control. That is great, actually. You are making a timeline of what you want in the future. However, one issue with that is the possibility that nothing goes as you planned. It is a moment that can crawl up in you, making you emotionally unaware of your close-mindedness. From there, you could miss out on a lot of opportunities in life because you weren’t looking. You become less emotionally flexible that when failure hit and things go wrong, you immediately fall apart and break down.

Basing Decisions On Emotions

As an individual who seems compassionate about things, you often base decisions on emotions, which is the truth. You tend to rely on your heart instead of your head. That is because it is what humans are programmed to do when it comes to initial reactions. Unfortunately, making decisions based on emotions can get the best of you. When emotions tend to outweigh your logic and values, it can cause an imbalance. It becomes a sign of emotional weakness as it drives you to create uninformed, impulsive, biased, and damaging choices. Sad to say, when you allow that once, you will become more drawn to it, and it would become difficult to change your ways.



Counseling 101: The Perks Of Enjoying Being Alone

We live in a world where we exposed ourselves to other individuals. We get to spend time with them over the phone, online, or in person. We are constantly in touch and connected with everyone in this world as it provides us the benefits of growth and development. We know that it is good most of the time because we feel safe and secure knowing that there is a caring and understanding community around us. We take advantage of the significant lessons we gather with them in different situations, and we get to become who we are because of their influences.


However, the problem with constant exposure to other people is our self-control. Usually, when we are often spending time with a lot of people, we become needy. It makes us depend on other people’s presence to be happy. We look at them in a very beneficial way, especially when they can fill some aspects of our lives. We believe them to be a missing piece in our existence. But honestly, that is farther from the truth.

One thing we should understand that there is no such thing as a “missing piece.” We must learn to love our own company and enjoy being alone from time to time. We need to reach that goal to become just as happy as we are with others. That way, we can appreciate the perks of self-growth and overall development.

Clarity Of Emotions

When we surround ourselves with many people, the tendency is that we try so hard to cater, respond, react, and understand these individuals’ emotions. So much that we end up losing touch with our own feelings, it is sad because we often try to ignore our emotional issues to understand others despite also wanting to be heard. We somehow lose track of what we want to express because we feel obliged only to listen.

But when we start to enjoy being alone, all those worries and fears about other people’s emotional requirements can disappear in no time. We can gain a greater perspective of how we should deal with personal emotions. Being alone can help us understand ourselves better whenever we feel upset, sad, disappointed, heartbroken, angry, and confused. Time spent alone can make us realize the important things that make us happy. Being alone can make us do the things that satisfy our emotional health.


No One To Please

One essential factor of social interaction is always trying to please others. It makes us think that we are committed to providing everyone with the right treatment, understanding, care, and love they deserve. The problem is when we unintentionally hurt and upset them through our words, actions, and behaviors. We become held responsible for other people’s mental and emotional health for maybe being brutally honest with our opinions or just being ourselves.

However, when we enjoy being alone, we would not apologize for hurting people’s feelings. We won’t have to convince ourselves to guess and be cautious with anything we say. We won’t become self-conscious or afraid that someone might get offended, saddened, and angered with our behaviors. Being alone lets us enjoy the moment of minimal stress in most social situations.

No Validations

One good thing about surrounding ourselves with many people is the constant care and support that we get. Every time we feel emotionally or mentally unstable, we have our friends and family to provide us with helpful coping advice. Sometimes, these people help us understand what we are going through, and they stick with us no matter what. Having people around us makes us feel safe and loved. It makes us want to get on with our lives and focus on recovery because we know that they are looking forward to us getting better.

But of course, there are times that too much opinion can seem a little too mentally crowded for us to handle. Sometimes people around us think they know better. They try to tell us what to do if they deeply understand what we are mentally and emotionally going through. Sometimes people in our lives are insensitive to our needs to push us to master denial and perfection. It is just sad how their words and actions can make us desire more validation.


Final Thoughts

Understandably, we want to be surrounded by people that we know will support and take care of us, especially when we can’t appreciate ourselves. But we have to realize that being alone is not that bad after all. The truth is, it can be beneficial in a way that it encourages us to reflect on things more often. It provides us a rare moment to look at life from a different perspective.