Counseling 101: The Perks Of Enjoying Being Alone

We live in a world where we exposed ourselves to other individuals. We get to spend time with them over the phone, online, or in person. We are constantly in touch and connected with everyone in this world as it provides us the benefits of growth and development. We know that it is good most of the time because we feel safe and secure knowing that there is a caring and understanding community around us. We take advantage of the significant lessons we gather with them in different situations, and we get to become who we are because of their influences.


However, the problem with constant exposure to other people is our self-control. Usually, when we are often spending time with a lot of people, we become needy. It makes us depend on other people’s presence to be happy. We look at them in a very beneficial way, especially when they can fill some aspects of our lives. We believe them to be a missing piece in our existence. But honestly, that is farther from the truth.

One thing we should understand that there is no such thing as a “missing piece.” We must learn to love our own company and enjoy being alone from time to time. We need to reach that goal to become just as happy as we are with others. That way, we can appreciate the perks of self-growth and overall development.

Clarity Of Emotions

When we surround ourselves with many people, the tendency is that we try so hard to cater, respond, react, and understand these individuals’ emotions. So much that we end up losing touch with our own feelings, it is sad because we often try to ignore our emotional issues to understand others despite also wanting to be heard. We somehow lose track of what we want to express because we feel obliged only to listen.

But when we start to enjoy being alone, all those worries and fears about other people’s emotional requirements can disappear in no time. We can gain a greater perspective of how we should deal with personal emotions. Being alone can help us understand ourselves better whenever we feel upset, sad, disappointed, heartbroken, angry, and confused. Time spent alone can make us realize the important things that make us happy. Being alone can make us do the things that satisfy our emotional health.


No One To Please

One essential factor of social interaction is always trying to please others. It makes us think that we are committed to providing everyone with the right treatment, understanding, care, and love they deserve. The problem is when we unintentionally hurt and upset them through our words, actions, and behaviors. We become held responsible for other people’s mental and emotional health for maybe being brutally honest with our opinions or just being ourselves.

However, when we enjoy being alone, we would not apologize for hurting people’s feelings. We won’t have to convince ourselves to guess and be cautious with anything we say. We won’t become self-conscious or afraid that someone might get offended, saddened, and angered with our behaviors. Being alone lets us enjoy the moment of minimal stress in most social situations.

No Validations

One good thing about surrounding ourselves with many people is the constant care and support that we get. Every time we feel emotionally or mentally unstable, we have our friends and family to provide us with helpful coping advice. Sometimes, these people help us understand what we are going through, and they stick with us no matter what. Having people around us makes us feel safe and loved. It makes us want to get on with our lives and focus on recovery because we know that they are looking forward to us getting better.

But of course, there are times that too much opinion can seem a little too mentally crowded for us to handle. Sometimes people around us think they know better. They try to tell us what to do if they deeply understand what we are mentally and emotionally going through. Sometimes people in our lives are insensitive to our needs to push us to master denial and perfection. It is just sad how their words and actions can make us desire more validation.


Final Thoughts

Understandably, we want to be surrounded by people that we know will support and take care of us, especially when we can’t appreciate ourselves. But we have to realize that being alone is not that bad after all. The truth is, it can be beneficial in a way that it encourages us to reflect on things more often. It provides us a rare moment to look at life from a different perspective.


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